Incomplete…… A Journey Of Discovery


 

 

It is the strangest thing to not know where you came from….I mean, I know where I came from…..duh, my mom and dad…. but there  was a large missing piece of our family puzzle……. for as long as I can remember I’ve wanted to find it.

The very idea that there was such a big chunk of our ancestry unaccounted for pushed me to search…..

 

 

My dad grew up not knowing his father.

 

It was just “one of those things” we sort of accepted that we’d never know. We knew my Dad’s father’s name but not much else.

The subject, when I was a kid, was totally taboo. We didn’t mention it ever but as my sister and I got older we started asking questions.

Nothing ever came of it.

 

The topic was always hush-hush.

 

I understand it was a time and a place back  in 1934 but come on……like if we don’t talk about it, it doesn’t exist?

There wasn’t a way to explain why my sister and brother were so tall when the 3 other complete sides of our family were not.

Or that my dad didn’t look much like his mother…maybe he resembled his father?

My grandmother would not acknowledge our curiosity.

 

That was until my sister had her first baby and wanted to know if there were any health issues on that side of the family. What she got was a extremely abbreviated version of what had occured…..

 

She got pregnant, he got transferred out of state, her  mother took her on a train to where he was and made him marry my grandmother, they went home, my dad was born….end of story.

 

That was it. Nothing else.

Of course my sister, brother and I wanted to know more.

              

 

In 2012 I started a free account on Ancestry. com.

 

I immediatly entered in the names I needed to start my family tree. Even without paying the membership fee, there was a ton of information available.

Gaining access to those 3 known sides of my ancestors on the website  was easy …..those sides were Mormon and their information was listed in the church.

 

It was that 4th side of my family that elluded me. That side was nearly impossible to search. I had the necessary names but it didn’t seem to matter.

When I couldn’t find a thing, got discouraged and dropped the project for two years.

 

Then, in November of 2014 I was prompted to start searching again. Prompted by what..I don’t know….but I began really, really looking…

 

I’ve always felt incomplete. There was this whole side of me…of my sister, my brother and my dad …..missing. 

This time I wouldn’t quit. I couldn’t

 

And it’s a good thing I didn’t………………………..

 

 

 

Side note: It is not my intention to shame my grandmother or anyone involved with our family’s history…this is merely my personal journey in finding my ancestry. The events that occured in 1934 are not important now. This is more about connecting the chain that is our family back together.

 

Due to my dad’s mid-stage Alzheimers’ disease, he has not been a part of my research.

 

 

 

This is the honest accounting of everything we were (weren’t) told.

To be continued…

 


2 Comments, Comment or Ping

  1. OpinionsToGo

    Well, aren’t you quite the little detective? It’s all very exciting…happy for you and your family.

    April 25th, 2015

  2. Thanks for reading Joanne! This has been a fascinating project!

    April 25th, 2015

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